cross-posted from: https://sh.itjust.works/post/49088835

Content Warning: SA, pedophilia

So, when I was 13, I dated this 33 year old named Jake. I thought he was a roleplayer because he always showed me this young teen boy when I saw pictures “of him” on his small Discord server. Since I thought he was roleplaying, I told him my name was Rose and that I was 24.

He was all like, “Oh, that’s cute~” and being overall flirty with me.

Then I showed him my face so he asked “How old are you really?”

I told him I was 13 but my OC (original character) that I was roleplaying as was 24, and told him my real name.

He continued to date me for a little while longer, showing me pictures of this teen boy and acting like a teen.

He then got scared and said “Yeah, we need to talk. I really shouldn’t be talking to kids so bye.”

He also told me he missed his ex who was 20-something, so that’s when I started to realize something was up.

His ex tried to talk to me, saying he was “tired of Jake’s bullshit” and then blocked me.

Jake never blocked me but I got a new account and lost his contact information.

Anyway, Jake was always flirty with me, liking my posts, calling me cute, and inviting me to his Discord where he would send photos of the teen boy, but later blamed me and said that I “made him date me” and “groomed him”.

Did I? I mean, I lied about my age but I eventually told the truth and he led me to believe he was a 14-year-old or a boy otherwise close to my age due to the photos he sent.

I’m disgusted with the thought that he flirted with some 14-year-old boy, potentially, and got his photos. I’m also disgusted with the thought he could have done this to someone else using my photo(s) and pretending to be a 13-year-old girl.

But when my friend went to confront him once, he acted normal? He was like “Oh hi!” “By the way, tell Rose I said hi!” and even told him about how he was unlabelled but thought he liked his ex after breaking up with him AGAIN.

  • Zak@lemmy.world
    15·
    2 days ago

    Reading through this story, I don’t see any mention of sexual contact, which would make it pretty hard for there to be any sexual assault. If I’m reading this right, it looks like you, as a child had a purely online relationship that was half roleplay and half real with an adult.

    If you knowingly misled him, kids do dumb things sometimes; don’t do that again. If he knowingly mislead you, he’s an asshole. If he continued having romantic or sexual chats with you knowing your real age, he’s a creep.

    • akari (she/they)@sh.itjust.worksOP
      9·
      2 days ago

      That’s fair, he continued dating and flirting with me a month after knowing I was 13 before confessing he “really shouldn’t be talking to kids”. He then said I groomed him. I will not do that again, I always tell people I want to date my real age, but I am certainly closer to 24 than 13 now (still not 24 though). He also showed me a photo of a teen boy while being 33 and acting like the boy was him and saying “This is me”, sooo…

      Yeah, not cool. Neither of us were exactly saints, but it’s fine 7 years later.

      • Zak@lemmy.world
        3·
        1 day ago

        He then said I groomed him.

        He was trying to make himself feel better about being creepy with a kid. He’s wrong is this situation. There isn’t really any room for ambiguity.

        Neither of us were exactly saints

        You were a kid. Kids are entitled to do dumb stuff while figuring out how social interaction works, and should not feel bad about it years later. He was an adult, pretending to be a kid online and being very creepy. Depending on exactly what he said, sent, or requested, his behavior may even be criminal in some jurisdictions.