My age says I’m an adult but sometimes I think other people know more about being an adult than me.

  • chosensilence@pawb.social
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    17 hours ago

    i strongly believe we have deluded ourselves as a society to associate natural human feelings with youth when they are simply how humans perceive and feel regardless of age. every single older person i ask if they feel their age says no. they all tell me they feel like they’re in their 20s at the oldest, some still teenagers. your body ages, you get wiser due to life experiences, but you don’t “become an adult” ever, because what we consider adulthood is a Western lie built upon capitalist standards and strict American individualism (if you’re in the US).

    i don’t feel 36. i don’t know what that would even entail. i feel “younger,” but i don’t see it that way. i feel like a human being connected to his actual existence and acknowledging it rather than allowing it to be repressed because i’m too old for x y z. we are all young-minded permanently. that’s just how humans are. it isn’t reserved for the physically young.

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      Perhaps its because we assume a proportional relationship between ignorance and youth. But because its impossible to know everything we are doomed to feel ignorant frequently and therefore perpetually stuck in a state before the imaginary line between young and old

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        14 hours ago

        IME ignorance is just a function of your inability or unwillingness to learn. Mostly because you are afraid of being ‘wrong’ or making mistakes.

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      17 hours ago

      i feel younger as i get older because i have less stress. in my teens are 20s i was constantly under stress. i remember high school, and college, and most of my 20s full of constant agonizing and worrying. mostly because i was poor and any life mistake felt like i’d lose everything and become homeless.

      but apparently many other people had an opposite life experience where their youthful life was not stressful and their adulthood is. probably because they grew up with money and had parents who helicoptered over them and now they find basic responsibilities to be a burden. like it shocks me how many people think having to work and pay bills is ‘unfair’ but i guess maybe that’s because they grew up not having to work and pay bills.