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Your feelings are yours, personally I’d just wallow in it and feel it and do absolutely nothing about it, you don’t need to tell her, a crush is by definition sort of a fantasy thing. It’s not her, it’s some dream person you’ve attached to her. But I’m old so have been through this more times. It gets easier and then it gets fun.

You and your dance instructor should hang out and take molly together.

I’m pretty much the same as you. I just do my hobbys or play games and such. You slowly forget about her, trust me.

I’ve found that when I want to kill a crush I can start looking for characteristics I dislike. Everyone has them and early on in infatuation we gloss over them. But intentionally highlight them and that crush usually goes away pretty quick. Works for me anyway

Shit your pants during dance class. All possibility is dead.

2 methods that I can think-of that might work, quickly enough for you:

1. deliberately develop a crush on someone else, like Lena Headey, or someone, whom you are not going to meet weekly, and

2. deliberately imagine her having total romancing with someone whom you both respect, value, & wouldn’t violate-their-boundaries.

Obviously, combining these 2 methods would be stronger.

Salut, Namaste, & Kaizen

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Tell her. Then she likely rejects your feelings, and you distance yourself from her to kill the feelings.

Time. Crushes are naturally a temporary infatuation. They pass given time. Have fun with the fantasies, but I personally would not suggest trying to actually hit on her.

It’s poor form to hit on people in their work places. If she initiates, that’s one thing, but I wouldn’t try anything otherwise.

Try actively steering your fantasy past the peak of infatuation and into the latter stages of a relationship and on to breakup.

Right now, you have intrusive thoughts about falling in love with them, and probably the excitement of getting to know someone intimately. Instead of trying to hold back, let that fantasy play out in your head further. Imagine moving in, imagine them not getting you when you’re explaining your problems. Imagine liking them, but finding their bad habits increasingly intolerable, and never being able to pick a movie to watch. Imagine them not flushing the toilet and clogging the shower drain with hair. And then imagine meeting someone new, and feeling guilty about crushing had on them. Imagine this new person reciprocates, and imagine politely explaining to your dance instructor that you guys can stay friends but, the romance has run it’s course.

And there you are. The itch is scratched, and in your mind they’re just a friend again.

All this advise is making me realize it wasn’t just a crush.

I’ve not seen her for years, I try my best to have contempt for her, I don’t look her up or make any sort of contact. She’s dead as far as I know, and that’s kinda how it feels. But I think about her often, I think about the regrets. It’s been years of no contact and I’m still mourning losing this “crush”

I find my crushes go away on their own after about a week. Your mileage may vary.

The advice People give in the comments it’s absolutely funny, it reeks of people who never leaves their house, or is women giving advice or some western Buddhist bullshit about letting go.

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From my own experience: cut all contact with that person… which may not be viable in your situation.