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For a split second, I read that as if you called her an overinflated balloon. I was very relieved.
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cutest girl at work asked me if i knew what poppers were, then supplied the explanation after i said yes. unfortunately i was/am too stupid to advance the ball further, and we both left the job shortly after due to a terrible regime change
What are poppers?
if you still have her contact details, keep being in touch. ask her for a date if things go well, good luck.
Our CEO came to visit us. It was fun. Some people couldn’t make it because they were out on vacation.
Our department manager announced with less than a week’s notice that he’ll visit us after our CEO, for no specific reason, the weeks around the Easter weekend (Friday and Monday are public holidays so 4 days weekend). For the occasion he asked everyone in the team to cancel vacations approved months ago.
All department employees individually politely declined to cancel their personal plans or approved vacations and involved HR. HR wasn’t aware of the manager’s decision.
He’ll be alone at the office for 2/9 visit days 😂
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My former job lost 8 people including me in the last year due to holding onto outdated processes and not being open to the workers requests. My former had a big brain drain and is only being held up nowadays by the leader, someone you can’t give any tickets but easy things (like enabling user rights by klicking one option) and another guy who is doing practically everything, even beyond his tasks. He too is currently looking for another job and I also hear from at least two other people who are fed up with top management. We’re talking about a company with only about 30 people when I startet two years ago and who only got 2 new people during that time.
I’m just sitting here, observing from afar and enjoying my new employee giving me the certificates I want. I dunno, but perhaps it is essential to listen to their employees to perhaps avoid them abandon ship…?
Those I share a space with typically conflict with each other, it’s not like school where they would go at me, so I tend to not be in the know. The only exception is one tried getting back at the others by using me as a bargaining chip. As in he kept me at his house for 2 days.
I mean, I was all, ok juicy work drama, juicy work drama. Then I got to the last sentence, I think that goes beyond work drama.
I checked out at “it’s not like school” but you got me to go back and read, yikes
That moment when I’m disqualified from a venting question for going over the meter.
It’s actually a pretty serious problem. It’s not so much that you’re disqualified, as that you’re ineffective at being heard.
This is a serious problem. Have you considered listening to great speeches, or rap, or poetry?
Not in particular, no. In what way are you suggesting I’d use that?
Listen to lots and lots of them. Absorb their patterns, to adopt those patterns, to improve your own communication.
Oh, that. I’ve tried that with other things. I’m finding it difficult, perhaps it’s my mind going a different way.
Wat
You two said it was “beyond work drama” and came across like it was unfitting as a result. Are we only expected to describe events that go below a certain glass ceiling of conflict?
came across like it was unfitting as a result.
That was all you. We neither said nor implied any such thing.
The first comment you replied to contrasted things that seemed “beyond work drama” with the “juicy work drama” they were looking for.
That’s basically it. I was the closest thing that could be used against the others, which was out of spite. Only was solved due to passerbies who knew something was going on and where.
…we’re you kidnapped or something?
Yes
Do you sometimes feel like people don’t take you seriously, even when you say very serious things?
Often, but in what way does that connect?
I feel my mind turning off, turning to teflon, when I read your comment. It made me wonder whether others have that experience too.
Here’s something interesting: social scientists have found that humans’ eyebrows dance when they talk to each other. The eyebrow dance is normally not consciously perceived, but it is synchronized between two individuals when they speak to one another.
What’s more is the eyebrow dance is literally a dance, not a conversation, specifically in the way it is timed. It is perfectly in sync, not offset as you’d expect a back-and-forth response pattern to be.
When this eyebrow dance synchronization is inhibited, for example by covering the speaker’s eyebrows, that speaker has an incredibly hard time getting information across.
This is a long-documented phenomenon in human culture: that people can be standing there conveying information and others can be hearing it but not picking it up.
Like one person can be saying “Our car crashed! My brother is badly hurt and he needs an ambulance! Can I use your phone?” and for various reasons another person can just stand there not processing any of it.
So really what I’m trying to say is that human communication is finicky and relies on maintenance of non-obvious parallel channels, and people can get cut off from others when those channels break down.
From reading your writing, and seeing how others respond, it makes me think there might be some channel based on word sequencing that’s not being adhered to.
I know from experience how much it sucks to be cut off and unseen, so I thought I’d point out for you that while I recognize what you’re saying is important, it doesn’t land in my feelings for some reason, and it feels related to how things are worded.
Yes
Please tell me you’re the office cat or something.
If only
I was able to file a grievance against a person everyone hates. It’s a slam dunk grievance, I even have evidence from their Instagram.
Everyone that I’ve told about it has been over the moon that someone gets to put them in their place finally.
Monday morning we have our big meeting regarding it, and I’m going to straight up fuck their ass up. I hope they quit. Seriously, they are such assholes to everyone. No one has a nice thing to say about them.
Omg I had this opportunity against a higher up who is a really fucking awful person but I opted to go for an informal complaint because I panicked that they would tell them who put the complaint in. the higher up really likes me and had no idea that I’d complain about what they were doing - they also would’ve talked absolute shit about me and tried to destroy my reputation if they found out, considering I’m very early into my career it wasn’t a choice I was willing to make. I wish I had been brave cause now it’s all said and done I can really see how hard HR actually wanted that person gone (much harder to do without the formal complaint).
Good luck to you!
HR wants crappy employees gone as much as you do, likely more, as they deal with them for every issue, you might only see some. Iceberg perspective. File the damn complaint and let us purge for your and everyone’s sake! (Unless you work in sketch org with compromised or biased HR).
Source, am HR.
Thanks that makes me feel better about the HR folks I spoke to. I work in an actually very safe organization in terms of this type of stuff but it’s also unionized so the paperwork seemed extremely overwhelming at the time and I didn’t really feel supported by the union at all, plus the fact that a formal report would mean my name would no longer be confidential. Unfortunately, I think it’s too late to do all that formal stuff anyway but I think I gave them enough to do a bit of damage as from what I’ve been told they’re still pursuing as much as they can. I just wish I hadn’t had to have been the one to speak up because our boss actually witnessed everything and had the same evidence as me and said fuck all. The whole leadership is a fucking mess honestly but I did find comfort in the HR folks that helped me out at least.
Let us know how it goes!
Oh, it’s a massive win. All of my leaderships support me 100% on this. The person in civil service (basically the person that adjudicates these things)called me after I filed the grievance, mad as hell that they would have ever thought to do such a thing in the first place. And they said they were taking it to our president so they could get approval to punish this person appropriately. It’s a huge slam dunk.
My coworker resents me because I spend more time with his friends than he does because I have more in common with them. So he just ignores me blatantly all day even though we share an office. It’s awkward as fuck but I just go about my business. He’s got mental health issues at the core so I can’t imagine what he’s going through
That one of the key people who knows how our technology works, how to improve it, and how much of a failure the current “upgrade” really is (engineering forced this “upgrade” without talking to those of us who know) will be handing in their resignation to join the competition in a matter of days.
I’ve already drafted the resignation letter.
One of the doctors I once worked with bought one of the clerks breast implants. She looks like Kim Kardashian and wore a French maid costume to our work Halloween party and got so plastered she vomited half the night, and proceeded to show me her new breasts lol. He got placed on administrative leave for that when it became known, and then was basically encouraged to leave a fairly prestigious practice for something much smaller.
My boss occasionally goes and picks up supplies and he’s supposed to get compensated for gas money. They give you a flat rate based on the distance there and back, and his bike has good fuel efficiency so he makes a few easy bucks for each trip.
One day management told him he wasn’t allowed to do that anymore (can’t remember the reason), and management told him it was the higher-up’s decision, not theirs. So he decides to email our division manager to basically ask if management was lying…
He accidentally CC’d the entire district lmao. We think it’s because the DM’s emails are usually for the whole district and he just clicked through one of those emails to find her email address. Management called him into the office the next day lol.
Seems kinda shitty to deny him. There is a government calculated mileage rate that should just be the default rate (somewhere around $0.50-$0.60 per mile) since it’s supposed to cover gas, maintenance, and every other expense it takes to operate a vehicle on the road.
As an alternative, imagine someone with a vehicle that gets 5MPG asking to be paid more than the set rate. I’m sure management would reject that as well.
It wasn’t that they were gonna just stop paying him, they were saying they were gonna do it themselves from now on so they didn’t have to lose that money (our store is in a pretty rough spot)
Well, they shouldn’t fire him, it’s hard enough to find that level of stupidity to promote above everyone else’s heads.
Straight to CEO for that guy
The lead engineer at a site I work on from time to time is on a 3 on 3 off rotation (weeks) on an offshore oil rig.
It turns out he was having to miss some of his trips because he had to ‘look after his ailing father’.
It turns out he was spending this time working another lead engineer job, for the same oil company but in a different country.
He got away with it for months until some issue came up and he had to call into the office and they noticed his number was from another country, Saudi Arabia.
Haven’t been back to that site in a while so I don’t know what happened to him but he’s certainly not working there any more.He’s probably making way more in Saudi anyway.
One of the people in our org has enough status that two major software vendors are spending considerable resources (we have an Enterprise contract, so it’s not out of the goodness of their hearts) chasing down a stupid bug that makes a common tool not work correctly. That’s about as specific as I’m willing to be.
This one is about my old org. It’s a small firm that keeps bleeding clients. The COO was someone who basically was an empty shirt who loved meetings. All the tech people agreed that he didn’t do anything to advance the company.
When I found out they let him go, I was shocked and considered it a good thing. Then I found out that the CEO didn’t give him any feedback and that the COO had even checked in to see how things were going and was told he was doing a good job. He never got an opportunity to improve his performance and got let go with no warning. That’s a shitty thing to do to a person, even if he was doing a bad job.
I had a project that dragged out a bit and because I was so focused on getting it done my work slipped in other areas.
I have a ‘position description’ meeting with HR on Monday about ‘a new direction the business is going in’ so I’m probably going to get the axe
I’m sorry friend. I hear you about being spread too thin at times.
