Interpret ‘hardest’ however suits you. Look forward to your answers!
No one’s worth my wellbeing. My happiness comes first. Be self suficient for my own happiness. Nobody’s special.
If your happiness comes first then it is because you are special. Which means that everybody is special.
Now at that time King Pasenadi of Kosala was upstairs in the royal longhouse together with Queen Mallikā.
Then the king said to the queen, “Mallikā, is there anyone more dear to you than yourself?”
“No, great king, there isn’t. But is there anyone more dear to you than yourself?”
“For me also, Mallikā, there’s no-one.”
Then King Pasenadi of Kosala came downstairs from the stilt longhouse, went to the Buddha, bowed, sat down to one side, and told him what had happened.
Then, understanding this matter, on that occasion the Buddha recited this verse:
“Having explored every quarter with the mind, one finds no-one dearer than oneself. Likewise for others, each holds themselves dear; so one who cares for their own welfare would harm no other.”
If your happiness comes first then it is because you are special.
I was going to write that, but left it out to not sound pretentious. Because I had no self love, I used to consider people who I loved special, but they ended up being incredible mean and detrimental to me. Even Christian Divine figures have disappointed me. So I learned the hard way the only special being to me should be myself.
Interpret ‘hardest’ however suits you
I’ll just scope it down to yesterday. I intentionally short-circuited a 36v battery to see if the battery is still functional or not because my multimeter is out of power. I did this intentionally or otherwise usually in 12v environment to either test out quickly if the wire is connected, or when i accidentally shorted the terminal. The spark are weak on 12v so no big deal with 36v right?
It’s the brightest spark i’ve ever witnessed in a semi-controlled environment, second to welding spark, and it leave a blind spot in my vision for about 10 second. The terminal melted a bit, and the wire bit that touched the terminal disintegrated. Also almost start a house fire with that.
Note to self: wait until you get your equipment in working condition before you work with electric.
So ,you would short a car battery to see if it’s working??
Sometimes you don’t get a chance to say what you wish you had.
Reminds me of a quote from a Reddit comment years ago:
“Sometimes we lack the strength to communicate, and we whisper what we need to shout.”
Yeah, that hits in the feels too. In my case there have been two big ones. I wish I would’ve told the girl that got away that I just got jealous and it was my fault I pushed her away…that I forgave her or more realistically that she did nothing wrong. I was young and dumb. The other was what I didn’t say to my stepson, that I wasn’t ever going to try to be the “new sheriff in town” and that life is hard and he was fine just the way he was. Maybe that yesterday’s painful lessons become tomorrow’s triumphs. He was an angsty, antisocial teen and I always figured he’d be cooler towards me when he grew up a bit. He killed himself, so growing up never happened.
Goddamn, I was blindsided by that last sentence. Sending good vibes now.
Thanks friend, I appreciate it.
If you have to force it, you’re going to break it.
Sidenote: rectal fistulas are awful.
To elaborate on this one: Sudden change (for the better) happens, but it’s extremely rare. It’s happened twice for me, and I think those are outliers. Usually, progress is slow and tedious, and you don’t notice it while it’s happening. Only in retrospect does the change become truly visible.
The people living in the Renaissance didn’t feel that change was happening around them.
You can’t argue with crazy. In fact, if you’re that desperate for crazy to validate reality for you, you have deeper problems.
Oh also if you help a family member who’s threatening to kill themselves, they’re just gonna threaten that every time they need $5.
Being alone doesn’t always make you lonely, and loneliness doesn’t always mean you’re alone. The feeling of loneliness derives from feelings of helplessness or hopelessness.
Counterintuitively, some people make you feel lonely. Abusive people, even if close to you, will often make you feel lonely. Apathetic people can also make you feel lonely.
I’m not sure if this will be a revelation to everyone but it was to me.
Surround yourself with people you want to be like.
You don’t have to forgive everything.
What about Tiananmen Square…?!? That was kinda cool for the CCP!
I wasn’t there but maybe someone here was.
Oh wait.
No.
They were all killed and then turned to mush by tanks repeatedly driving over the bodies and then hosed dune the drains.
GLORY TO THE CCP AND HOW WONDERFUL THEY ARE TO ALL THE PEOPLE.
DO NOT actively try to help anyone who is not sincerely asking for help
A small amount of selfishness is necessary for a healthy life
What about Tiananmen Square…?!? That was kinda cool for the CCP!
I wasn’t there but maybe someone here was.
Oh wait.
No.
They were all killed and then turned to mush by tanks repeatedly driving over the bodies and then hosed dune the drains.
GLORY TO THE CCP AND HOW WONDERFUL THEY ARE TO ALL THE PEOPLE.
Know when to ask for help. You can’t always hold the world on your shoulders.
You can’t just pretend that you’re “driven by logic” and ignore your “weak” emotions forever. If the foundations upon which you build your personality are rotten, there will be point where it all comes crashing down. Until that moment you just waste time pretending to be someone you aren’t.
This is something commonly misunderstood as:
Logic = correct = good
Emotion = irrational = bad
In truth your emotions are trying to tell you something. You certainly shouldn’t be acting completely on emotion. But you do need to learn to interpret what your emotions are telling you and what that means, because there is critical information there that you would ignore at your peril.
Exactly. I think it’s easy for autistic people like me to fall into this mindset. When I was younger I was quite disillusioned with the world, mostly because I didn’t fully fit in. Feeling like I was in some way better, because I was driven by logic instead of emotion, was probably a defense mechanism or something. In truth it was not that I didn’t have emotions, I just wasn’t able to listen to them. Luckily I never really got into the far right “facts don’t care about your feelings” bullshit.
Weapons are a human right, completely independent of anything about rebellions or keeping the government in check.
Individually, if you prevent a person from carrying a weapon when they’re in a dangerous situation, it’s like locking them into a cage with a hungry tiger in it.
It’s perfectly natural for a person to be able to reach out and pick up a weapon. To block someone from this takes active effort.
And if that person is in a dangerous situation, and you make that effort to prevent them from being armed, you’re actively violating their rights.
Does being a prime target for random violence mean you’ve experienced random violence?
I’m taking the other comment about not arguing with stupid people.
