People who make me feel like crap or worse off then when I encountered them consistently are written off and out of my life
Doesn’t matter if its family, nobody is entitled to your attention and suffering and it does nobody any real good for you to succumb to the inevitable dysfunction it creates in your life and relationships and also material conditions.
Go at your own pace, build habits. You can get good at anything if you stick with it long enough and don’t compare yourself to others.
Embrace the difficulty, because it’s not going to go away.
Never waste a perfectly good crisis
You’d be restraining yourself without limiting ulhmm
This one is very important. This is one of those helpful rules I’ve actually learned in business environment first before I started applying it in personal life.
There exists a problem. Problem requires a solution. Solution requires diagnosing problem and using reasoning to solve craft solution.
Assigning blame (root cause analysis) can wait. First, fix problem. Then analyze how/why problem happened and implement corrective and preventative actions.
A company I used to work for actually had a policy of never to assign root cause as “Human error”. Individuals actually never got blamed. Instead, it was perhaps that there wasn’t enough training, or certain procedures were lacking which could’ve prevented the problem, etc.
One time someone had accidentally broke an $8 million dollar piece of equipment. They were never fired, or reprimanded at all. Instead, the investigation assigned root cause to lack of adequate safety procedures, or something like that. Therefore actions are taken to help prevent recurrence instead of just saying “They did it! Fire them!!”
They were a great company to work for because of this.
People either enhance or diminish your life. Very few are neutral.
Treat them accordingly.
What makes a man turn neutral? Lust for gold? Power? Or were you just born with a heart full of neutrality?
Admit when I’m wrong.
No.
And learn how to defend when you’re not. Some assholes use it as an excuse to divert blame to the guy who tends to admit fault, even if it’s not actually their fault.
Probably my favorite realization in life was that I might be wrong. Always, no matter how confident, we are all wrong sometimes. Even about the most basic facts, we could be wrong because brains are weird. So, I just try and minimize that while recognizing it.
Be excellent to each other
Keanu?
Keep the roof watertight, keep the toilet flushing, keep oil in the engines, keep gas in the tanks, keep at least a week of food in the pantry. Literally nothing else on this earth matters if you don’t have these five things done.
Everyone deserves respect.
Respect is in fact, not earned.
One loses respect due to their behavior.
I like to say that everyone is deserving of respect, but few are deserving of deference.
When I was a teenager, I encountered a bunch of different perspectives that contradicted the beliefs and ideas that I was raised with, and I realized that if you had wrong ideas about reality and tried to be a good person based on those ideas, you could easily wind up doing more harm than good. So I made a vow to myself to always pursue the truth - to learn about the world, to examine myself and my biases, to seek out and understand different perspectives, to ground my beliefs on evidence, and to reject peer pressure and comforting lies and to face reality even when it disturbed me.
Underpants go on the inside.
Unless you’re Day Boy
Or Quail Man.
“First is best”
To avoid overthinking decisions that don’t really matter, the first acceptable choice is the correct one.
Save your indecision for stuff that matters.
I’m sure your wife loves you…
“Babe, why do you only last 2 minutes when we make love?”
“I’m first to cum! I win at sex!”
You’re saying your wife’s pleasure doesn’t matter to you?
Me? I was talking about YOU! Its your rule.
For making choices. It’s not a race, buddy.
If you ain’t first, you’re last Ricky Bobby!
Relates to intuition right?
I have no more right to interfere in someone else’s life than they have to interfere in mine.
Avoid people who don’t share that view.
Make it work, then make it work right.
And it’s companion for understanding how things came to be- every complex working system invariably developed from a simple working system
Have strong opinions that are weakly held.
Don’t let “perfect” be the enemy of “good”
Now that I think about it, my principles like my life may be all about engineering…
Why does one need strong opinions? And what are they actually?
To me, having a strong opinion means I have thought about the problem space enough to understand what I believe are the important aspects and what optimizes them. Remembering to hold them weakly in the light of previously unconsidered or under appreciated arguments prevents me from becoming overly rigid.
Don’t let “perfect” be the enemy of “good”.
When I make maps for ttrpgs, I’ve started using a tool that is, let’s be honest, kinda crap. The maps I can make using it can only ever be “good enough.” This is good, because it means I don’t spent hours trying to make it perfect, and instead just finish prepping other things.
MVP is a good tool I was just mentioning. Picked it up unknowingly from coding, still working on generalizing it to my life but its working and rightly for me
Have strong opinions that are weakly held.
Ooh this is excellent phrasing of a good principle
Adapt or die.
