With asshole mods and asshole users running amok around instances unchecked while playing victim when the favor is returned to them. I find that the fediverse as a whole is just like any other socializing platform. No different, just a different coat of paint and a neat little mechanic in how it operates. But, still the same old shit.
How disappointing.
That’s on you. Why would this be any different in user behavior? It’s just a difference in underlying tech architecture
Socially it sounds like you want to be an asshole user but don’t want to put in the effort to be an asshole mod or an asshole server admin. Of course you running into assholes constantly is also very likely a personality flaw on you rather than others