I’m honestly baffled by what just happened after my last post. I shared a story about someone very close to me, and how proud I am of them for finding the courage to embrace their identity. I thought it was important to stand up for people who are often misunderstood or dismissed, especially during Pride Month. But it seems like things quickly took a turn I didn’t expect.

The response to my post was honestly overwhelming mostly in a negative way. I was downvoted into oblivion, and some people seemed to think it was all just bait. Which… I didn’t expect at all. My friend’s story is real, and it’s personal. She’s someone who’s gone through a lot of internal struggles and has found a sense of peace and authenticity that I truly admire. Yet, when I tried to share that, it seems some of you Lemmings didn’t take it well. I’ve been trying to make sense of it. I genuinely don’t understand why people would respond this way when the post was meant to be supportive. The level of hostility and outright rejection was… well, surprising. This isn’t the first time I’ve seen a strong pushback against people embracing their identities, but to this extent? It’s disheartening.

For context: my friend has been a vocal supporter of multiple marginalized communities, and I’ve seen firsthand how hard she’s worked to validate and support others, especially those who are trans and transracial. To see her courage being attacked like this just doesn’t sit right with me. What happened to just supporting people, regardless of how they identify or how their experience manifests? I understand that not everyone may agree with certain perspectives, but the extreme negativity seems out of place. I thought this community was about empathy, openness, and understanding. When did it become acceptable to shut people down for sharing their lived experiences? Anyway, I’m not here to start any fights, I just want to understand. Why is it that when someone stands up for themselves and others, they’re immediately dismissed or vilified? What happened to kindness and mutual respect?

  • theunknownmuncher@lemmy.world
    181·
    10 hours ago

    You attempted to troll. You received a minor amount of downvotes and backlash. 🤷 If you don’t like that people on Lemmy are reasonable, you can just stop using Lemmy.

    • Jamboree@lemmy.cafeOPEnglish
      123·
      10 hours ago

      It’s a good thing I wasn’t attempting to troll, now, wasn’t it? The impression I’m getting here is that so-called “allies” aren’t as accepting as they like to portray themselves as, and suffer from hypocrisy.

        • Jamboree@lemmy.cafeOPEnglish
          117·
          10 hours ago

          It wasn’t bait, it was me writing about my friend standing up for trans identities, both transgender and transracial since both are equally as valid. You seem pretty transphobic to me.

            • Jamboree@lemmy.cafeOPEnglish
              121·
              10 hours ago

              The reason for that is because you hold transphobic viewpoints. If you support transgender identities but not transracial identities then you are being hypocritical. I’m sure you realize that. I expected better from a supposedly progressive social network.

        • Jamboree@lemmy.cafeOPEnglish
          118·
          10 hours ago

          If you consider a person saying transracial identities are valid is “bad-faith” then how is that not you being transphobic? Perhaps the mods of this community may not take kindly to transphobia.

          • Mist101@lemmy.world
            91·
            10 hours ago

            Ooh! Report me too! And go ahead and report EVERYONE ELSE whom YOU are accusing of being transphobic with checks notes zero evidence. Way to de-escalate a “volatile” situation you made up for the sole purpose of getting interaction on a newborn-account. Are you thinkin’ of selling it off once it gets enough notice on the fediverse?

            • Jamboree@lemmy.cafeOPEnglish
              113·
              9 hours ago

              The clue is in the name. Transracial. If you don’t believe that transracial identities are valid, then how is that not transphobia?

              And my friend’s situation is very much real. It’s something she’s had to deal with since she was young. She is in her late 20’s now and since she has friends who support her identity, her wellbeing has been much better. I used to think transracial identities were invalid when I was younger, but after actually looking into it and having a friend who is transracial, I realized my presumptions were wrong. Transracial people struggle with self-love just like transgender people do, so what’s wrong with making people feel more comfortable in themselves? Nothing, that’s what. Nobody can come up with any good arguments. Instead they resort to ad-hominem after ad-hominem, which should tell you more about them than it does me and her.