Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?
When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?
Not a factor at all, but using the term “body count” is enough on its own to lose interest.
Very mature of you to have an appropriate age bracket of 40+ only
Oh, everyone under 40 is sexually hung up? I got to tell you, things are not much better on this side of 40.
I know for a fact my wife has a higher count than I do, how much more? No clue, because I never asked and it doesn’t matter.
Everything she’s done up until I met her, made her the woman I love today.
Body count is stupid.
As long as someone is honest with you, cares about you, and gotten tested so they aren’t spreading anything… who honestly gives a shit?
If you have a problem with the number of people your partner slept with prior to meeting you, you really shouldn’t be dating, as you need therapy to work through your issues before you start mucking about with other people.
Wow.
One homicide might be an accident, once someone’s over a dozen I wouldn’t want them in my house.
I suppose it depends if it’s a hobby or a professional gig.
don’t care. I’ve never even asked a woman how many people she’s been with. It’s none of my business.
Not a deal breaker at all :3
Honestly makes it more fun uwu
Context not included, the number itself doesn’t matter, but the context with the number can potentially matter. For example if they had sex with 50 people and thought they were in love with most of them, then how can i feel like their love for me is real and going to last? But if they had sex with 1000 people when they were being sex trafficked against their will, then (aside from concerns about possible related trauma) the number wouldn’t matter at all.
What if they had sex with 1000 people willingly and enjoyed it, but weren’t in love with all of those people?
Again, I’d need to know the context. Was the person a sex addict? Were they in a contest with their friend to see who could have sex with the most people? Etc etc etc? 99.99% of people don’t get anywhere near 1000 sex partners, so for me I’d need to know the context that led up to that result
As long as the body count is not murders or abducted people in a basement its fine
I’m married so it’s moot, but I’m gonna go against the grain a little bit here. I don’t know that it would ever be a dealbreaker but it might signal a fundamental incompatibility because of me. I recently discovered the term “demisexual” and that describes me pretty well. I’d say I’m somewhere between demi and flat out asexual. So yeah, I wouldn’t judge a high number from a partner but I would worry that we wouldn’t work out, if that makes sense.
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I have had zero partners, and I think I’d feel really insecure with someone more experienced. Depending on the person it might not be a dealbreaker, as long as it’s not more than maybe 2 or 3. Although I know that is a very small percentage of people my age :(
Thanks for the honesty. I have a hard time figuring out why anyone would care. Insecurity. That’s the answer. If you care you’re insecure.
Sorry you’re struggling with that.
Assuming no STIs, I honestly don’t care.
So someone likes sex. So do I. We have that in common. Your body count is of no concern of mine. Honestly none of my business who or how many as long as we are together we stay faithful unless previously agreed upon.
Considering that I’m approaching triple digits, it’d be pretty hypocritical for me to not be comfortable with my partners also having a high count.
Edit to add: Honestly, I prefer that my partners have a decently high count. It means that they know what they’re doing, know what they want, and know how to ask for it. The only downside is that we never have a good answer to the stock question of, “What wild fantasy do you have that you’ve never done?” We’ve all probably done anything that we’ve fantasized about.
