𞋴𝛂𝛋𝛆@lemmy.world to Ask Lemmy@lemmy.worldEnglish · 2 days agoDo you have self empathy?message-squaremessage-square35fedilinkarrow-up125arrow-down14file-text
arrow-up121arrow-down1message-squareDo you have self empathy?𞋴𝛂𝛋𝛆@lemmy.world to Ask Lemmy@lemmy.worldEnglish · 2 days agomessage-square35fedilinkfile-text
minus-squaremacaw_dean_settle@lemmy.worldlinkfedilinkarrow-up1arrow-down2·1 day agoThe golden rule does not work. What if I like to be treated like shit? What if I like physical abuse because it gets me off? Does that mean I should treat others this way?
minus-squareEnsignWashout@startrek.websitelinkfedilinkarrow-up1·1 day ago The golden rule does not work. What if I like to be treated like shit? Agreed. But it is a good default place to we start. The real skill is empathy - to understand how the other person wants to be treated. My empathy for others became much more effective after I started practicing empathy for myself. It was a bit eye opening, to me, to realize how much impact a practice of self-empathy made in my relationships.
The golden rule does not work. What if I like to be treated like shit? What if I like physical abuse because it gets me off? Does that mean I should treat others this way?
Agreed. But it is a good default place to we start.
The real skill is empathy - to understand how the other person wants to be treated.
My empathy for others became much more effective after I started practicing empathy for myself.
It was a bit eye opening, to me, to realize how much impact a practice of self-empathy made in my relationships.