The difference is the type of people who are drawn to Lemmy are more technical, computer savvy

Lemmy needs private servers

Either they’re not friends or

OP misinterprets their behavior, and they actually are supporting, just not the way/amount OP wants or

“friends” believe OP is at fault and nobody is feeling sympathetic.

I guess they could also just be terrible people that decided to shit on OP for shits n giggles. But I doubt it.

You’re losing friendships by asking for support? Something’s missing here…