Girls want guys who are happy on their own first. Nobody wants to be responsible for someone else’s entire happiness.

That’s why they tell you to get a hobby with a community, it’s to be happy on your own. It isn’t so you can meet girls who like the same things you do (although that can happen), it’s so that girls can be attracted to the fact that you go get what you want and enjoy your life.

It’s hard if you’re depressed and it feels pointless at first. Do it anyway, and don’t do it to meet women. Do it to be happier.

When you drop the bitterness of being an incel and fill your life with friends and hobbies, you’ll immediately become more attractive.