I have no idea what you are trying to say.

Maybe read it again, in context, and decide if there are equal rights to initiate that particular interaction (no matter what the genders or sexualities involved are).

Are you saying that two people, no matter the genders or sexualities, never have the same right to initiate undressing in front of each other? What?

Then have a stern word with yourself about being so incredibly defensive that you end up portraying yourself as a sex pest.

Defensive? I’m neither a gay man nor a heterosexual woman. This doesn’t affect me at all.

it was always initiated by them

Did you mention this randomly or do you believe that you have less right to initiate that than they do?