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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • She wanted to stay with me even without kids, but after the first days I saw her become an empty shell of a person. This was her meaning of life, apparently even more than we both thought. I could leave her, but that felt horrible as well.

    Now we have a kid; the first few years were a personal nightmare for me because of mental health issues. Lack of sleep icw depression and what more makes parenting extra intense. I tried with all my might to not let it affect our child, I hope I managed to so far.

    It’s a lot better now, the kid is great and I’m amazed how much love I feel, but I always feel guilty. For giving life (something that goes against my principles as I did not want to be born myself) and for not being able to 50/50 care because of the mental shit that makes me unable to. Aside from that the usual, missing my freedom, the continuous responsibility.

    I would not do it again in a reset of my life, not because of the kid who I genuinely think is great, but due to my lack of mental health, which has the potential each and everyday to ruin it all for them (which is a compulsive intrusive thought in my mind). But I hang on, I try to.

    With all the love and respect, I would not recommend anyone in my situation.


  • Could be, or maybe I’m the over-anxious one being too emphatic. But I can just imagine there will be a moment that I’m going to be that instance of self, which will experience the world similar to me.

    Like it’s as much me as the me in one hour is going to be me. As long as our chemical setup is the same, with (roughly) the same organization of atoms and thus having the same brain, I can relate as I know exactly how it feels.



  • I’ll try. For example, our nightly state that forms a sort of split in our stream of consciousness is similar.

    It’s a bit like saying you are happy life is over when you go to bed, but in reality there’s a pretty good chance you’ll start a dream state which you might not remember afterwards.

    Still, even if you might not remember a nightmare, you don’t want a form of yourself to experience it. As you know in that ‘now’ it will be suffering for that version of yourself.



  • The desktop browser was better than IE back in the days and I like how they market/position themselves. Nowadays I switch between Chrome and Firefox just to have different containers (private and work), and yes I know this is also somewhat native supported in Firefox… but it still felt unintuitive to me.

    I recently started using Firefox on Android because of the new privacy sandbox strategy (which I’m not against per se, I don’t know all the details yet though), but I must say… it feels a bit buggy and seems to suffer from input lag. Too bad, the desktop experience is flawless.



  • While I agree that businesses have way more direct impact and responsibilities, “it’s about sending a message”. If we as consumers put more priority on goods / foods that have less of a bad impact on climate change, corporations will follow that trend as well as that’s where the money is.

    We still have to hope that we’re not misled by marketing teams too much, but if the global trend is in a specific direction it has more of a chance to contain better options. Just be aware that possibly most of your climate enhancing actions might still be bad/misled/hypocritical in hindsight, but it’s better than if we don’t take any action at all.

    The only thing we can do is raise our chances.


  • I get what you mean, but that’s just us placing a value on the importance of someone staying alive. An emotional habit that we as social creatures that work together and can love one another of course have.

    Purely rationally speaking, there is no need for one to be alive and that person cannot regret such action, as he/she’s dead. The regret is an emotion we project on someone who does not exist anymore, while thinking death is something negative. But in my opinion it’s neutral.


  • Euthanasia should be available for anyone at any age. You don’t choose to be born, life has no inherent value, suffering is strictly personal. Suicide is a terrible option with lots of drama, an extremely high failure rate and lifelong treatments or medication that are seen as the solution by society is a conservative convulsion of keeping people alive under any circumstances.

    We could set up three sessions with a therapist, to keep people from losing loved ones too fast. But honestly, to me that would feel patronizing. That other people find it important someone stays alive is their problem. If it hurts them too much they can do the same.

    There is joy in life and that’s beautiful, but on a scale suffering has the possibility to be more intense. Let people die without drama, let them say goodbye if they want with a ceremony, let them choose.

    That’s the next step in the mentality of a modern civilization. It will fix the drama of wars, hunger and pain as you always have a simple painless solution if the suffering gets too heavy. Just end it, peacefully, whenever you want.