What were you surprised to learn wasn’t actually normal?

@VirusMaster3073@lemmy.world · 7d

What were you surprised to learn wasn’t actually normal?

Horsey · edit-2 6d

Child abuse. I thought it was normal to threaten children with violence for noncompliance. I thought it was normal to be afraid to misbehave or be suboptimal in school at the threat of violence.

@bss03@infosec.pub · 5d

I don’t think my father would consider spankings, with wooden paddle or leather belt, child abuse. It was a threat that I fell afoul of a few times at school or home.

Depending on your age, that level of “child abuse” might be normal. (Not that it should be.)

Horsey · 5d

I didn’t wanna be too graphic, but a spanking is nothing lol. My father attempted to beat me to death me a couple of times for defying his absolute authority (imagine thinking a pre-teen is in any way a threat to “authority”).

@bss03@infosec.pub · 5d

Ah, yeah, my father only threatened to fight me once, and he never did. (I think he felt I was directly questioning his authority when non-family members were present, but the memory is hazy at best now.)

It does sound like your experience is abnormal. (But, I’m not really informed; just working from my experience, and hearsay.)

@leighweigh@badatbeing.social · 5d

Ah yes, therapy has been fun the last few months since we’ve processed all the recent stuff and moved on to my childhood… Hugs to you friend.