I can’t find people to form relationships with.
How am I supposed to find a friend or even a partner, if I can’t find anyone to talk to long-term to form relationships?
Where are the other people looking for friends or partners?
How to solve this puzzle?
As I said in the other thread, the activities that I enjoy does not have groups.
So that rests me to square 1, where do I start?
No, you argued and shot down every idea. Let’s take the bar one, you said:
So going into this you had a very negative outlook and ignored that you gave a very narrow view. Obviously you assumed a lot about people and what they thinking, and you shut yourself out before ever saying hello. I know this one to be false because I am someone who loves going to a bar, sitting down at the bar, and starting small talk. Sure if you walk up to a group of people you’re going to get weird looks, but I’ve met some very interesting people while sitting on a barstool and just chatting.
This is just one example. I could go to all of the others too, but the point is is that you have a very negative outlook. I go back to what I said, the first step is to find your own personal joy, what gives you enjoyment. I say it’s not that you’re lonely, it’s that you don’t know yourself. You start by looking inward, and learning who you are.
This is it right here. Do not do this, Op.
You have no idea what’s in someone’s head anymore than anyone knows what’s in yours. It’s a self fulfilling failure.
There is no group activity that you think you would find enjoyment in?
If so, why do you want friends? If you had friends, what would you want to do with them if you hate all group activities?
Yeah, I think you’re off-putting to other people. I get that you’ve tried stuff, but were you letting others talk? Were you obviously rolling your eyes at people? Were you shutting people down instead of keeping an open mind?
People are being nice here, but I think you need it spelled out. I’ll do it in order of importance at the top.
I’m sure there are plenty of activities that you could enjoy but never thought of. Try joining a sports club that isn’t a gym, or a board games club, or a book club, anything really. It doesn’t have to be something that you currently do or that you already enjoy, you can also try expanding your hobbies by thinking of cool stuff you’d like to do but never got around to try
You could also join to classes where you can learn things. Pottery, knotting, painting.
Look for RC tracks, or warhammer, or train terrain building, or go and sit next to an airport / train station where you can watch planes /trains - there will be other people.
Meet up groups for free yoga in the park or hiking or even AA meetings if you want to avoid alcohol.
Get into cosplay, anime. Or even be a furry. As the other commenter says first step is you.
Time to find some new activities if meeting people is a priority then I think. Which isn’t to say it will be easy to do but neither are most things worth doing that improve our material existence.
I started doing a beginner’s hip hop dance course. I would have never started doing dance courses solely to learn some dance moves, but the need for socialization was a great motivator to invest in improving this skill of mine.