I randomly break down over the most unrelated, inconsequential things, crying and raving like a lunatic.
I don’t even think physical activity helps. I started trying to run in March. I still do it relatively consistently, but it doesn’t seem to do anything. I have no suggestions. Other things I do are turn to alcohol, harm myself, or act like a crazy person around people. None of it helps lmao.
I try to get in 30-40 minutes walks with entertaining audiobooks on my earbuds. I breathe fresh air and think about anything but life.
Occasionally I find myself trapped in thoughts and realize that I haven’t been listening to the book, so I back it up and try again
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Furious, rage-induced masturbation.
“He beats me furiously.”
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Sometimes with music. I quite like death and black metal, and I find listening to that loud or playing guitar along with it (also loud) to be quite a cathartic experience. Other times I need more peace, though. I like walking and climbing hills, any nice spot of nature, so I go out and do that at the earliest opportunity. My health and the weather around here can limit the opportunity for that sometimes, but it’s good when circumstances permit
I go for a drive. The more frustrated I am, the faster I drive (within safe bounds)
Please try to find a different way to vent. I can see how that may feel satisfying, but driving any kind of vehicle when stressed or in an emotional situation can be highly dangerous - for you and everyone else involved.
If hormone levels are high we’re unfortunately not always able to assess risks and our abilities correctly and won’t be as focused as required.
I think context matters too. When I lived in the Midwest I could go on a long drive in the country and it would help me relax and cool down.
Having lived in LA for 10+ years now though, driving while angry leads to very bad road rage (at least for me).
I need stupid, unadulterated and reckless fun. I want to play games that allow me to be the biggest asshole. I’ll go on public chat rooms like ChatAvenue and just piss off a room with my antics. I just want chaos of some sort because just listening to music, watching things and doing whatever don’t do it for me as much anymore.
70 arrows into paper every afternoon.
Without you sharing some context it’s hard to suggest anything precise. I mean, are you talking about sudden frustrations or long-lasting ones? Sudden and unexpected or constant and relentless? Caused by yourself to yourself or by other persons? Caused by some physical issue/pain?
- Long walks. This is like magic to me. Plus it helps get in much better shape physically and mentally (better blood flow helps the brain works better or something like that).
- Writing, sketching. Longhand with pen and paper. As far as I’m concerned, it’s much slower than typing which also helps thinking slower, which helps take a step back and consider whatever the issue is.
- The most useful tool I have: if the source of my frustration is something I can’t change (that’s the keyword: I must know I can’t change it), I will accept it or I will ignore it if you prefer. I will forget about its existence, accept the nuisance, zap it out of my mind. It’s one trick that can be learned with practice (aka with… more frustration), that’s really worth it. Philosophers may refer to that practice as stoicism, but it’s not exclusive to the stoics. For me it’s all about my available energy and time (time I have in a day and time I have to be… alive, on this planet). I have a limited amount of energy I can spend each day, I have only 24h a day and I have a limited amount of days remaining to live. Why would I want to waste them on stuff I can’t change or that will only make things worse (since I can’t change them)? So, I don’t waste my time with those ;)
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Music, screaming in the car, and imaginary scenarios where I beat inanimate objects with a bat. Sometimes just imagining going full Office Space on something is good enough.
I only get really frustrated with technology, and I’ll handle that by angrily explaining to the inanimate object how stupid it is.
“Grrrr… You’re lucky I’m broke or you would be broken!”
I play a video game that lets me destroy things, but without any adversaries. Like GTA in Director mode, just blowing up cars and mowing down NPCs while having god mode on.
I hug and bite my plushies