Just bought box wine the other day cuz I knew I had to have a super uncomfortable conversation that could not be avoided and I needed to be anaesthetized for it
It worked and I know in retrospect I really needed it to be that way
Edit/Update: person I had convo with just texted me and apologized for combativeness and I mutually apologized for not dealing with it sooner and we’re along and on to solution mode. The system works, please dont drink if you dont have too but dont forbid yourself from using a tool to improve your situation and try to always be honest. The less you lie or hide, the less influence you will have to unnecessarily drink
For conversations I need to have, I rehearse in my head and mutter quips to myself to prepare myself for all contingencies.
This isn’t so I will say these words to the person, but more that I’m convincing myself and arming my mouth when my brain wanders off as it is wont to do.
On the actual day, I drink a soothing tea and don’t say anything unless the uncomfortable topic is brought up. If people clock onto my calm confidence, they usually don’t instigate.
I’ve learned from early on that people prey only on those they perceive weak, but to pre-emptively strike is to invite ruin. So I prepare and stay quiet.
Beer would ruin that planning as I am a lightweight