Ik the bar and club scene have women but it’s not likely to go anywhere plus one or both parties are drunk. Just curious to see what people think on the topic. The beach is a spot I’m trying to push myself to talk to women at

  • Vanth@reddthat.com
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    4 days ago

    Meeting through friends and social groups like sports, clubs, church, whatever, is much better than cold approaches, IMO. I can see a dude display they have social skills and we both have something more than “he/she is pretty” to go on.

    Don’t have friends and hobbies? Tackle that before worrying about dating. Romantic relationships are like friendships but on expert mode.

    Counter-question, how can I make it clear I DO NOT want to be cold-approached by ANYONE while at the beach? Headphones, sunglasses, and my face in a book has not worked.

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      Counter-question, how can I make it clear I DO NOT want to be cold-approached by ANYONE while at the beach? Headphones, sunglasses, and my face in a book has not worked.

      Have you considered not being attractive? Always worked well for me.

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      Put a sign up lol, otherwise if you’re in public expect people around to try to converse with you. Many people love talking to everyone around them. Everyone has their head buried in their phone or is engrossed in listening to music, etc. as a distraction from the daily grind or whatever their problem of the day is, it’s not always the obvious “don’t talk to me” that you might think