If I have money, I give it to them if they aren’t raising any danger flags. Like there’s one woman who just screams “I’M HUNGRY” at people, and I’m sure that’s true, but I don’t engage with her because it feels unsafe. There’s one whose name I learned, and another couple we recognize each other now.

I used to make good money (low six figures). Giving away $20/week to people asking for it wasn’t even noticeable in my budget. I could probably have done $200/week without noticing. I think my peers are just bad at budgeting though.

I’ve been unemployed for a while now, so I don’t always have cash to give. I tell them the truth.

I don’t expect people who have nothing to give a lot. But I know many of my six figure salary peers could give without even noticing the money, and they don’t. They don’t give to charity, either. They just buy video games they don’t play, run the AC so they have to wear a hoodie inside, and so on.

I’m pretty sure these scam calls are because the phone companies don’t care enough to build better systems. We just all accept a shitty world because Verizon can’t be bothered.

But if I’m on example.com/feed and I see posts [1,2,3] based on my user and whatever algorithm is there, and you’re on example.com/feed and you see posts [4,5,6], how would it know? Same url, completely different content.

I guess it would work on pages that have a fixed url, like news articles.

How would it work, technically, on a dynamic website? Any given url may load different content.

Not on its own. If someone’s using it a lot and giving other hate signals, I’ll suspect that they know what they’re doing.

They tried, but I don’t think they did a great job.

I was limited by time and duration. I wasn’t allowed to start playing games until like 3pm, and wasn’t allowed to play after dinner. (If I went to someone else’s house, the rule didn’t apply. If someone came to my place, video games were also allowed, but my parents didn’t like people coming over). I also had to finish all my homework first. I remember just watching the clock on the weekends waiting for it to tick over to 3pm, then dashing up the stairs to the games.

For some reason, I was allowed to watch as my TV as I wanted. I’m old and tv was limited, and we didn’t have all the channels.

What ended up happening is I would lie. I would say I had finished my homework when I hadn’t to get that sweet, limited video game time. I would say I was watching TV in the basement but I was playing games with the sound down.

This trashed my school habits. I was doing all my homework the morning it was due. I was a smart kid so everything was still getting done well enough for me to get B’s, but this wasn’t great. When I got to college I had no study habits or learning stamina.

To this day I kind of find tv and other passive watching unsatisfying. I never watch anything on my own. Only with someone else.

I don’t know what would have worked better. The clock based limit felt terrible though. Really hated that. Maybe if they had explained “if you put all your stat points in video games now, when skill ups are cheap, you’re going to be underpowered later” it would have landed.

Rice and beans.

Oatmeal

Pasta

Marked down produce

Cool. I’ll subscribe, thanks

I’m not aware of any NYC communities, even inactive ones, on the fediverse, though I haven’t looked very hard. That link you provided errors out, if it’s supposed to work.

I walk past a couple bars a lot and they seem to have the same amount of people. All the outside tables had folks last night.

I’m not going to bars because I’m unemployed. Like I say, if capital wants me to spend money they can give me some, first.

I’d like to see a community for cool stuff happening in NYC.

I’d like to see more stuff for organizing protests and resistance, also for the NYC area.

Mint didn’t work at all on my last desktop. I should have tested more with the live disk before installing.

The mint discord I found was pretty helpful though.

A reasonable guess, but i think I (re-)read all of Pratchett as an adult and didn’t come across it

I read a fiction in high school about like the afterlife, and it mentioned the best English playwright wasn’t Shakespeare. It was some nobody who only showed his writing to his neighbor, but the neighbor was an asshole and told him it was trash. Don’t remember anything else about it but that stuck with me.

That’s good but there’s a lot of room between creepy and effective

I never paid for it out of stubbornness.

Are you writing good messages to potential matches?

What part of the world are you in?

In my experience, tinder is pretty bad. I don’t use facebook so I can’t vouch for that one, but I assume it’s also bad. I never got a single match on Bumble.

Hinge, I got pretty good results on. Even though they’re all owned by the same Match Group, hinge seemed to work better. I could get about a date a week on hinge, as an average guy.

I think it worked better for me because you can send a note when you see someone you like, so if you can write complete sentences you’re already a cut above the average guy.

Tell us more about your current usage. What are you doing and where is it failing?

Some of the other posts already hit the highlights. Have a variety of well lit photos. Your profile should be short, but with some unique-ish hooks for people to talk about (eg: “reading ‘such and such’ for my book club!” - several things for someone to ask about there).

When you do match with people, don’t send generic messages. Don’t just send “hey”. Go read https://nohello.net/en/ for a post about that in other contexts.

After you’ve had one or two successful exchanges, clear any deal breakers you might have (eg: “really enjoying this conversation but wanted to make sure you saw on my profile I have a toddler. Are you okay with that?”). If that succeeds, ask them out.

Don’t provide too many choices. People get overwhelmed easily. “I’d love to talk more about (whatever we we were talking about). Do you want to go on a date? I like (local bar), but (other bar) in your neighborhood looks fun, too!”. Two choices. They’ll probably pick one.

More specific advice may be available if you tell us more about your specific experience

Conservatives are wrong about pretty much everything. I don’t know of a single problem where they have a sensible policy. They’re worse than toddlers.

Usually people talk about the pre tax cost.

I have a tinfoil hat theory that the taxes are kept like that to give people a recurring, low grade, anti-tax sentiment. There are a lot of crazy idiots that don’t want government to exist here, so by making people feel bad about paying taxes (instead of obscuring that by baking it into the listed price) they can win sympathy.