Why are you reading this? Go do something worthwhile.
I have two.
There is no such thing as toxic masculinity or toxic femininity. There is only toxic individualism.
Sometimes, you shouldn’t be yourself. The person you are might be awful. Bullying and societal pressure correcting you to a norm can be a good thing.
You seem to be mentioning right wing grifters a lot in this thread. What exactly do they do that upsets you so badly?
I think a lot of American breweries confuse “interesting” beer with “good” beer, because in the US, as long as it doesn’t taste like Coors, you’re fine.
It’s the chicken bacon ranch pizza problem. It’s good. I like it. But I don’t want it every time I have pizza. I definitely can’t eat a whole chicken bacon ranch pizza, even if I spread the leftovers over the week. But a slice every now and then is great.
“Good” American beer is generally pretty fatiguing to drink. Good European beer isn’t. That’s how it is for me at least.
This is the answer.
For many people who don’t understand technology, the solution isn’t more technology. Is a password notebook technically less secure? Yes. But it’s much better and more understandable than what she really wants, which is the same username and password for everything.
Plus, a notebook is great way to pass information that’s not just usernames and password. It’s in invaluable resource in case of death. Digital is great, but physical copies are important.
I have this drawer.
It’s not a junk drawer.
It’s an irregular kitchen items drawer.
It’s just the cost of being someone who actually uses their kitchen. We have the garlic press, scissors, pizza cutter, bench scrapers, microplaners, thermometers, etc… in there. All useful things that fit poorly with other things, so they get a drawer all to themselves.
The junk drawer with batteries and twist ties is another drawer.
There used to be a way you could download all of the Wikipedia text as a PDF. I’d pop that bad boy on a Kindle and have my own Hitchhiker’s Guide.
One of my favorite books is called Inherit the Stars.
Mankind is starting to reach out into the solar system, but finds a man on the moon entombed in a space suit, and he’s been dead for 50,000 years.
It’d make a pretty good movie, 2 hours tops.
It does one of my favorite things, by strongly blending two genres: mystery, and sci-fi. A sci-fi show, movie, or book that’s purely sci-fi is rarely good. Same goes for fantasy. Season 1 of Game of Thrones is good because it’s primarily a mystery/drama story in a fantasy setting. A New Hope is great because it’s a western, coming-of-age story in a sci-fi setting. Rebel Moon is garbage (for many reasons) because it’s pure sci-fi schlock with no nuance.
Slightly younger old millennial.
Bacon used to be just about the most expensive meat you could buy.
Bill Clinton tried to kill Osama bin Laden.
Terrorists were angry leprechauns who had been abused by centuries of British oppression.
Russia was kind of cool for a little while.
If you won the lottery, what’s the first irresponsible thing you’d do with the money?
No paying off student loans, no buying your parents a house. It has to be irresponsible but not necessarily indefensible. Great icebreaker question.
Men are logical. Women are emotional.
Such an enormous generalization and oversimplification. Very false.
Religion is founded on belief, and belief allows people to feel certainty about things they’re ultimately uncertain about. As long is there is something that someone doesn’t fully understand, religion and god are a solution to bridge the gap.
When you are that person, the leap to a god is fairly logical and easy to them, since at a base level, it’s born out of a desire for someone to be in charge and in control. You understand some of the world around you. To understand it more fully, you just need a bigger, stronger, smarter version of yourself. That’s why in most religions, a god is not some transcendent, immortal, eternal, all powerful being. They’re just essentially Human+. There are way more religions with gods like Zeus than Allah. Saying that nobody is in charge, and nobody fully understands anything, and that’s all OK makes billions of people uncomfortable. And, screaming at them that they’re wrong and need to be more OK with some existential dread usually just serves to make them more uncomfortable.
Ah, marriage.
I spent a decade with streaming services, because for 10 years, it was the best, easiest way to watch what you wanted to watch. I paid a fair price, and studios got a fair cut.
When every studio decided they wanted a bigger cut by extracting more out of my pocket, they intensionally fragmented the market and made me pay an unfair price for an inferior product. They haven’t innovated, done more, or produced better TV or movies, they just demand more for the same.
So, I pirate.
Same, but when I began really looking at it and trying to overcome it, I found it’s a very universal experience, certainly not divided by gender.
When you look at these odd archetypes of what people want out of the ideal man or woman, they all share the same core. Strong, independent, doesn’t need help, doesn’t want help. The individualistic experience is such a sad, lonely, miserable, experience. They want to be able to go it alone, but in hundreds of thousands of years of truly human existence, going it alone is such an exception. Our weights and burdens and lives are meant to be shared. They always have been and always will be.
For example, I have a 4 year old son who has been infatuated with ballet for a couple months now. There are dads today who are beating their sons for liking ballet. It’s terrible. But it’s not that ballet is “queer” or that men don’t do ballet. There are plenty of men who are queer. There are plenty of men who do ballet. But, I don’t do ballet. If I beat my son, it’s because I am making it about myself. I don’t want a son who does ballet. That is as narcissistic and individualistic as it gets.
That’s not to say that it’s not toxic masculinity, just that the toxic masculinity is narcissism in a trench coat.